It’s no secret that this year, and to be honest the past 23 years, I have tried my best to practice self-love. It isn’t always easy, but when you do get to that point of freedom, it is a beautiful place to be. I am proud to say that I am fully in love with myself, even on days where I don’t think I am. How did I get to this point? What is the magical key ingredient that has allowed me to be able to state what I did as a fact? How was I able to do this when so many people told me that I shouldn’t?
As I am sure you already guessed, there is no magical key ingredient. Just a lot of time spent with myself, even more time spent reflecting, and of course, learning to accept the things that I cannot change. I have taken the time to be selfish. And I say this without fear of admitting to you that it is me being selfish. As someone who used to go out of her way and make herself be selfless, saying the word “selfish” doesn’t roll easily off the tongue. But I mean this in the way that I focused on needs and what made me feel like the best version of me. I did this because my relationship with myself should always come first. Your relationship with yourself should always come first.
I want to be a therapist. That’s not a secret to those who follow my blog or my Instagram either. It is one of the biggest goals I have for myself. Through plenty of research on how to become a better therapist, I found that the number one way was always the same. You have to not only practice what you preach, but go into this career with your pitcher full. What I mean by this is that you cannot expect to help others if you cannot help yourself first. My pitcher of self-love, acceptance, wellness, and health has to be full before I pour what I have into others. Because no matter what anyone says, you cannot fill glasses with an empty pitcher. So, I quickly realized that I would need to do what it takes to fall in love with myself. And I did.
I cannot explain to you specifically how to do it, because there is no cookie-cutter way. Everyone will have different wants, needs, desires, and situations. But what I can do is tell you what has happened in my life and what I did to fulfill myself. So, I decided to make a new series for my blog about the side effects I’ve had since I began loving myself.